The Bhagavad Gita, a respected text known for its wise teachings, shares timeless lessons. While it mainly discusses Lord Krishna's conversation with Arjuna during the Kurukshetra battle, there's a lesser-known talk between Lord Krishna and Duryodhana. In this crucial moment, Lord Krishna imparts profound knowledge from the Gita to Duryodhana, but Duryodhana refuses it. His response, captured in the verse below, shows a deep understanding of his own nature and choices.
जानामि धर्मं न च मे प्रवृत्ति
र्जानामि पापं न च मे निवृत्तिः ।
केनापि देवेन हृदि स्थितेन यथा नियुक्तोऽस्मि तथा करोमि ॥
"I know what is right and wrong, yet I struggle to follow what's right and avoid what's wrong. O Lord of the senses, you dwell in my heart, guiding my actions."
This sentiment reflects a common experience in our lives. How often do we wish to change those around us, hoping to improve our lives or theirs? But the reality is, we can't control others' decisions. Think about a toxic relationship where one partner is emotionally abusive. No matter how much the other person tries, the abuser won't change unless they genuinely want to.
Likewise, imagine a sibling or a friend who need to get up and change his/her life. No amount of persuasion from the family and friends can change their behavior unless they realize the need for change. What we see frequently is the inspiration that lasts 3-4 days based on inputs from people around them.
Reflecting on Duryodhana's understanding of himself, we see a contrast with our own lack of self-awareness. The lesson from Duryodhana's story is significant. While we may want to influence others positively, their journey is theirs alone. We can offer support and guidance, but the decision to change lies with them.
Lets look within. What about our own journey of self-discovery and improvement? How often do we reflect on our nature and choices? In the busyness of modern life, self-reflection often takes a backseat. But it's in these moments of introspection that we discover profound insights about ourselves.
Consider your own habits and inclinations. Are there patterns of behavior you find hard to change? Are there aspects of yourself you want to improve? By delving into our psyche, we uncover the motivations behind our actions.
For instance, if you struggle with procrastination, it might not just be about managing time. Deeper factors like fear of failure or lack of motivation could be at play. Understanding these might be helpful.
Similarly, in health and fitness, self-awareness is crucial. How often do we give in to unhealthy habits like mindless snacking or skipping workouts? By being mindful, we can identify triggers and patterns, making better choices for our well-being.
We know - we need to go to gym, we need to be consistent, we need to get up and go for a walk, we need to get enough sleep, we need to eat healthy, we need to spend time with our family and not lose patience, we know we need to study for that interview and improve our skillset, we know we need to get better with our life but do we take action? We are no one to judge others but we do know for sure what is good or bad for us. Do we take action? So if we are still not acting on it, do we really know ourselves? See that triggered something in you - Don't worry it wont last long.
When I was in my teens, I was part of Swadhyay Parivar and we used to study Bhagvad Geeta in different ways. Now after more than a decade I can look back and see how that self study (Swadhyay) created a path for myself and I do think I was very blessed to be there at the right time and age in my life. I guess that's what is keeping this fire and curiosity alive in me and keeps me on this path of learning and discovery in life.
Start thinking, here are some ideas from my own experience that might be helpful.
1. Practice mindfulness: Spend time each day in quiet reflection, paying attention to your thoughts and feelings without judgment. Start your day with meditation.
2. Seek feedback: Ask trusted individuals for their views on your strengths and weaknesses. Find mentors.
3. Embrace challenges: Growth often comes from stepping out of your comfort zone and facing difficulties.
4. Set goals: Establish clear goals for yourself and frequently assess your progress. Did you know there are studies that point to likelihood of favorable results if the goals are written?
Remember, self-awareness is an ongoing journey. Embrace it with openness and curiosity, and see how it transforms your life.
Chose your path!